You get to choose. Your thoughts are truly powerful and you get to choose how to process the negative events around you and the disappointments in your life. Perhaps someone important to you didn't show up, your boss didn't come through with the raise you were hoping for, the house or car you bought turned out to be a real lemon, you got picked last for the soccer team, your mother is pretty awful at mothering. The opportunities for disappointment in life are endless, but how you think about these things and the way that you choose to respond...that's your choice. Complaining and criticizing isn't going to help. In fact, when you swim in that murky negativity pond you are limiting yourself and your opportunities to move past and to move forward. So don't linger for too long, pondering what went wrong or why something happened (or didn't happen) the way it did. Focus your energy and thoughts on finding a silver lining in the situation. Focus on moving forward, not on looking back. You get to choose where you focus your attention and energy. You get to choose.