Friday, April 4, 2014

(not so) great expectations

It's a strange human phenomenon. We often overlook, or take for granted, the people that we are closest to. I've heard different explanations for this but, in my mind, reasoning it away doesn't make it any better or make it ok. It's also pretty common, fair or not, that our expectations of people closest to us are a lot higher than the expectations we have for other friends or common acquaintances. Shouldn't the exact opposite be true? Shouldn't we be showing extra kindness, patience and a bit more understanding to those closest to us?

We really can't change other people, no matter how much we may want to mold them into someone we think they should be or to change their behaviors. We can, however, change how we think about them, how we look at them and their actions. We can change our own behavior and pay better attention to how we treat our loved ones. At some point they will no longer be in our lives and what a shame it will be when they're gone and we are left with regrets about events we missed, about things we wish we'd done differently or about words left unsaid.


7 comments:

kat said...
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kat said...

I think, everything starts with our own attitude. If we interact lovingly, the world responds lovingly.

Tessa~ Here there be musing said...

Ahhhhhh yes. We can't change anyone, but ourselves. Such a hard life lesson to learn, and to internalize.

Charlotte Edens said...

This spoke to me and for me it is a work in progress. Thanks for the reminder of the importance of awareness, especially with the ones we hold close. PS. See ya tomorrow night! :o)

Unknown said...

Beautifully said. Thank you Bev.

Teresa said...

Perfectly said....if we all could just be a little more kind.
Love the picture too.

Susan said...

Oh I know what you mean. Great post Bev!